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Wicked Wednesday: Feast

‘When you see this acronym [BDSM], what do you think of?’

Wikipedia - BDSMI’m a girl who likes precise definitions. Blame the ex-editor in me. But I’ve come to understand that these four letters don’t fit into nice, neat little compartments. I like that Wikipedia has made an attempt to break out all the possible letter combinations in the ‘aspects’ box on the BDSM page (see image on left) but, to me, these groupings are still quite narrow.

BDSM, as far as I’m concerned, is a bit like cooking a roast chicken for Sunday lunch; how I do it will be different to the way you do it, which will be different to the way the way the postman does it, which will be different to the lady down the road. It’s still roast chicken, it still tastes good, but the seasoning and condiments will undoubtedly be unique. The divergences may be subtle, but they’ll almost certainly be there. What each of us defines as the ‘standard’ plate will differ according to diner. Continue reading →

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A squirt of Yes lube in the hand is worth a really good hand job

Yes Yes Yes

What we used:Yes oil-based organic lubricant  Yes water-based organic lubricant
From: Yes Yes Yes
Price: from £4.95 for 25mls (varies by retailer)
Ingredients:  Yes oil-based – Prunus dulcis (Sweet almond) oil*, Butyrospermum parkii (Shea butter)*, Helianthus annuus (Sunflower) seed oil*, Theobroma cacao (Cocoa) seed butter*, Cera alba (Bees wax)*, Natural Tocopherols (Vitamin E)  Yes water-based – Aqua (water), Aloe barbadensis (Aloe vera)*, Cyamopsis tetragonolobus (Guar Gum)*, Ceratonia siliqua (Locust Bean Gum)*, Linum usitatissimum (Flax extract)*, Phenoxyethanol, Potassium sorbate, Xanthan Gum, Citric acid.
Reviewer: Lizzie

 

One of the things Thomas and I have observed over the years is that a hand job is one of the best ways to judge whether or not a lubricant is up to scratch. Nothing, it seems, can burn through a poor quality lubricant faster than a palm stroking a penis and, as such, we decided to take a slightly different approach to reviewing these two lubricants from Yes Yes Yes …

Basically, I touched Thomas. A lot! Continue reading →

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Kink of the Week: Blindfolds

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‘Someone once described the use of blindfolds to me as “BDSM-lite” and claimed that since everyone has tried them at least once, he doesn’t even really classify them as “kinky” play. Would you agree with that? Why or why not?’

 

‘BDSM-lite’? Yeah, I disagree. This humble little item has an awful lot of power over me.

It doesn’t leave physical marks.

It doesn’t cause pain.

It doesn’t make a noise.

But each time it’s used I’m completely in its thrall, because it puts me totally and utterly into the hands of the person who’s placed it over my eyes. Continue reading →

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Alert Me: Judgemental judges, optimal flaccid penis length, sex and disability

In this Alert Me: the U.K. Border Agency make me embarrassed to be British, women assess flaccid penises, and what sounds like a fascinating documentary about sex and disability.

 

“Have you ever read Oscar Wilde?” asks UK immigration judge
Source: 429 Magazine

This is absolutely appalling. Apparently, U.K. judges, working in conjunction immigration officials, have actually been asking those seeking to escape persecution in their home countries for being LGBT if they’ve ‘ever read Oscar Wilde’ to determine whether their asylum claims are legitimate. And it doesn’t stop there; it appears they’ve been quizzing people on their use of sex toys and judging them on the way they look, too. Stereotyping at its worst. Read this and get cross. I certainly did.

*The Independent have also covered this debacle and you can read their take on it here.

 

Sorry lads, size really does matter
Source: Stuff.co.nz

A large penis makes you more attractive.

Yeah, I don’t actually agree with that. Or particularly like what the headline of this article implies. That’s like saying that because I have a (very) modest bust I have no hope of being attractive to the opposite sex. Frankly, I’d like to think that I have at least one or two other attributes to recommend me! I’m not saying I’m averse to ample length and girth but it seems that this size-ist conclusion was reached under very clinical conditions (as it should have been) and, whilst I’m very much a science girl, I feel that something as complex and personal as attraction will inevitably play out very differently outside of a lab. What did catch my attention, however, was the following observation about what women saw as the ‘ideal’ flaccid penis length: Continue reading →

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Get your Rocks-Off no matter what your age

Rocks-Off RO-100mm bullet vibrator

What we used: RO-100mm soft tip bullet vibrator
From: Rocks-Off
Price: from £12.90 (varies by retailer)
Material(s): chrome-plated ABS/silicone tip
Reviewer: D

This Rocks-Off RO-100mm bullet write-up is a special one, because it is has been undertaken by my newest reviewer, D, who is an amazing 74-years-of-age. All of you out there who think that sex toys aren’t for those of increased maturity? Think again!  Reading her comments on this little vibe was fascinating – and I’m thinking that maybe I should have given her something a bit bigger to kick off with!

All I can say is that I hope I’m as wonderful and sexy as D is when I hit my 70s … Continue reading →

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Mutual Release (Stewart Realty) – Liz Crowe

Mutual ReleaseTitle: Mutual Release
Author: Liz Crowe
Publisher: Tri Destiny Publishing
ISBN: 9780985991180
Reviewer: Jane

Romance for Real Life.

That’s the proposition for Liz Crowe’s latest book in her Stewart Realty series, Mutual Release. In fact, that’s the proposition for all her books. According to a press release from Liz’s publisher:

 

“My characters are real. They have flaws, quirks, and a multi-layered histories that motivate them. They could be your best friend. Or the girl in your office that drives you crazy. Maybe my readers even sees [sic] a little of themselves in my characters. Whoever you see, you will identify with the characters and their lives.”

 

So what does that mean, exactly? Characters who aren’t filthy rich? Who argue about mundane things? Who shop at Primark or GAP because they’re on a budget? Who forget to put the rubbish out for the dustman and spend the next seven days trying to jam bags into an overflowing bin? Who don’t automatically know how to get each other off the first time they have sex?

Er, no. Continue reading →

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Warning! Shameless promotion of a friend ahead!

Quite a few friends and acquaintances know about my blog, although I tend to get a range of reactions when people hear about it for the first time. Amusement and shock are common, ‘you don’t look like the sort of person who would write about sex!’ (I had no idea a certain appearance was required) but more often than not they’re curious and will ask questions or actively send me things they think I might be interested in reading or writing about. It’s not unusual for me to turn up at someone’s house for a coffee and have news clippings about erotica or sex toys shoved into my hands the moment I sit down. Anyway, a couple of months ago a good friend of mine said to me: ‘A guy my husband knows is starting a sex shop for women. I showed him Chintz when we had supper the other night and he wants to talk to you’. Continue reading →