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WomenToday, I have the pleasure of hosting the very lovely Dirty Little Whispers here on Behind the Chintz Curtain. I’ve had the privilege of meeting Emma both online and in person (thank you, Eroticon 2013!) and when I was pondering the idea of femininity and what it means to us in this day age, was beyond pleased when she agreed to share her thoughts on the subject.

Before I hand over to Emma, a little background on this post … A few weeks ago, Molly, who runs the weekly Sinful Sunday meme (which both Emma and I both regularly take part in) asked for photographs themed around men, maleness and masculinity. What did those words mean to each of us? And how did we interpret those words visually? The prompt produced some beautiful photographs and it was really interesting to see the diversity of the pictures and how varied our perceptions of the words were. Which lead me to think more about the word feminine. Does it still have the connotations it did, say, ten years ago? Thirty years ago? And how do we each define our womanliness?

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As ever, there are some excellent articles in this month’s edition of e[Lust] but I’d just like to say how pleased I am that Cara Sutra’s post has made the top three. A balanced, articulate and well-thought out piece that skilfully tackles the subject of rape fantasy. A tricky and emotive topic – one that many of us will likely disagree on – handled with care, surety and aplomb. Bravo.

 

Pandora
Photo courtesy of Pandora Blake

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Do NOT take my rapeplay fantasy away from me!

Pulp Fiction

“O” is for Outlaw No More

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

The Second Letter

The Wake

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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As a young teenager, being flat-chested bothered me a lot. Mainly because I used to get teased, by boys and girls alike, for having little to nothing up front; my boyish shape was apparently not ‘normal’ or attractive to either sex. I wasn’t a storm in a B-cup, let alone an A-cup – and I cannot even begin to describe my hysterical joy when I managed to get my hands on a Wonderbra at around age sixteen. (Excitement city as I went from flat plain to small hillock.)

It wasn’t until my early twenties that I really started to become comfortable with my lack of chest but while I would like to say that my acceptance of my body shape was largely down to my own sense of self and growing maturity, I really have to credit my change in attitude to a handful of wonderful partners, including M (despite him being a self-confessed ‘boob man’), who were unfailingly positive about my body’s landscape – to borrow a line from Bridget Jones – just as it was.

So this picture is an homage to that cliched phrase that I’m sure all of us small-chested girls have heard at one time or another, ‘Anything more than a handful’s a waste’. Or in this case, ‘anything more than a camera …’. Continue reading

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Another brilliant edition of e[lust]. Even if you don’t have time to read the whole digest, please do check out the top three posts, as voted for by the e[lust] judges, Molly’s picks, and the brilliant article by K. D. Grace on the regulation of our fantasies, which scooped this month’s Sexbytes Readers’ Choice award.

rose Photo courtesy of Sex with Rose

Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #56? Start with the rules, come back March 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Why I Post Nude Photos (and blog about sex)
Discovering Myself Through My Strap-On
Sex Toy Shaming and Bigoted Wise Cracks, FTW!

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Aftercare and BDSM Play
Two worlds

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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Christmas Fairy

Image: Christmas Fairy. (Me, wearing my halo, whilst sitting in a Pohutukawa – also known as the ‘New Zealand Christmas tree’.)

This Wicked Wednesday is an unapologetic, sentimental and festive ‘thank you’ – a big one! – to all the amazing people who have made my 2013 so happy and wonderful.

Bloggers, writers, readers, fellow kinksters … There are so many of you that I am pleased and proud to know (both online and in person), and who have been totally selfless in support of me and this little Chintzy corner of the Interweb these past twelve months. To that end, I’d like to embarrass a few of you by specifically calling out your awesomeness. Continue reading

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*A massive ‘thank you’ to everyone who voted my Pain Positive and Sex toy manuals: puppies, kittens and a whole lot of nonsensical fluff as top picks for this month’s edition of e[lust], and an even bigger one to the wonderful people who made the former article possible – Molly (Molly’s Daily Kiss@Mollysdailykiss), DomSigns (@DomSigns), Trent Evans (Trent Evans Letters@TrentEvansTales) and M. They, without doubt, deserve the lion’s share of the credit.

 

potter Photo courtesy of Property of Potter

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

 

7 (Random!) Suggestions for Dominant Types!

Pain Positive

i know what you are.

 

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Golden Girl

Have You Met Larry

 

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

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*This month’s e[lust] is out and there are some truly fantastic articles in this edition, as well as a stunning photograph by Down the Rabbit Hole. (Please note that I’ve placed the latter below the fold for this particular post as it features a pair of – extremely beautiful! – naked breasts. Just something to be aware of if you’re clicking the ‘Read More’ tab in full view of others!)

Welcome to e[lust] - The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Want to be included in e[lust] #51? Start with the newly updated rules, come back October 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

When the sex isn’t great

The Least You Can Do

I don’t know how to dominate

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

TO THE MAN WHO OWNS MY SUBMISSION

Why I Need Him There.

~ Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

First lesbian love

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