How timely this Kink of the Week topic is; I have literally (as in the last 24 hours) hit the ‘pay now’ button and invested a chunk of change in a new phallic monolith for the old Jane and M toy box. No batteries, no cords, no plastic – just a lovely hunk of made-to-order glass that I’m hoping will get me off like no-one’s business. I want an orgasm. And I want a good one.

At this point, I’m going to say something controversial. Well, not controversial exactly but, possibly, a little surprising because I really haven’t seen that many other women make the statement I’m about to:

Phallic-style vibrators don’t, as a general rule, get me off.

Not without a lot of fiddling about, anyway.

From a stimulation point-of-view, the internal vibrations do a whole lot of nothing to my lady parts (am I the only one whose vagina pretty much yawns in boredom at these?) and while the rabbit ears – if the vibrator in question happens to have them – do generally feel good against my clitoris, they never seem to hit quite the right place with any sort of consistency. M’s fingers are far easier to position, far more flexible, and far more likely to get me where I need to go. They don’t need recharging, either.

Which brings me to dildos.

I was late to the dildo party, seduced in my youthful exuberance by the idea of vibrations equalling orgasmic heaven: why would I want to choose a plain old phallus over one that vibrates like an Airbus during take-off and churns little beads around like a cement mixer full of marbles? Surely the more features the better? Give me the bells and whistles! Stick as many things on that hot rod as possible!

Image: L’Academie des Dames… Aloïsia, Nicolas Chorier

Yeah, turns out all those extras, for me personally, were highly un-necessary. In short, I have come to realise that, internally, all my body really cares about is size, shape, and material.

My first dildo purchases were probably not the best (rubbery numbers that smelled awful and, in hindsight, were likely choc-full of phthalates). However, the fact that they were, respectively, both bigger and smaller than a standard vibrator made them stand out because they could do things their vibrating siblings weren’t really able to: the larger-sized dildo created more satisfying friction internally due to its girth; the smaller, thinner one could be inserted into tighter places. Eventually, however, as I became more educated about phthalates, I threw them both out and went in search of body-safe alternatives.

And this was when I discovered the joys of the glass dildo.

The glass phallus has pretty much become my internal sex toy of choice. Why? First and foremost, because it has a firmness to it that the softer, plasticised versions just don’t. In turn, this means that it can be angled and rubbed against the G-Spot extremely effectively and, if I’m lucky, prompt a squirting orgasm. (When all’s said and done, that’s the kind of climax I put on a pedestal because they’re nearly always more intense than one triggered by clitoral stimulation.) I’ve also found that glass tends to lend itself to more extreme angling design-wise and that the hooked, curved dildos that can be produced from it as a result are perfect for targeting that little sponge of internal nerve endings. Best of all, glass isn’t going to leach all sorts of chemical nasties into your body. It’s easy to clean, too.

Image: Erotische Darstellung, Franz von Bayros 

I’ve not yet tried a stainless steel dildo (although one of those is on my wish list) but have heard that many others rate them, particularly the njoy Pure Wand, for the same reasons: it’s firm, angled, body-safe, and non-porous. (This particular design comes up again and again on Toy with Me Tuesday and looking at various other online reviews, it seems some people are ready to marry the thing!)

So (after all that rambling), I hereby declare myself a card-carrying member of Camp Dildo. I like it here. There’s no fast, or slow or pulse setting, but it’s satisfying. Blissfully so.

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My picks? Well, you know I’m not that keen on pink things, so might I suggest one of these lovely, dark beauties …

Silicone Anal Beads from Sex and Mischief

Made from silicone – and therefore body-safe fun for your bottom.

50-hour Athens Massage Candle by Petits Joujoux

I’m rather taken with the packaging of this. Simply light the candle, wait for it to liquify, and use the warm wax in place of a regular massage oil.

Jimmyjane Form 3 Rechargeable Vibrator

It’s waterproof! Which means that this vibrator can join you in the bath. Glass of wine … candles … a saucy book … an orgasm or two …

Just enter the following code, OHITQUE25, at checkout to obtain the 25% discount on your purchase (or purchases).

Happy shopping!

Jane
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This shot is actually one from the Chintz Curtain archives. It was part of a series of clit clip pics that Lizzie and I took for her C is for clitoris, C is for clip post last year.

We didn’t end up using this image in the end (I think the one that headed Liz’s review is the better of the two) but I still like it a lot. (The rosebud made a rather good stand-in for a real-life clitoris and labia!)

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What we used: Clitoral clip/clitoral clamp
From: Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium
Price: £6.00
Material(s): metal (unspecified), fabric (unspecified), plastic (unspecified)

Earlier this week, we reviewed Japanese clover nipple clamps. Today, Lizzie ventures below the waist with a clit clip from Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium.

First impressions …

Lizzie
As you probably gathered from my last Toy Box post, I particularly enjoy the sensation of clamped nipples, so taking things a little lower was a logical progression for me. I also quite like the idea of clitoral decoration but am too much of a chicken to get anything pierced, so a clit clip seemed like a nice compromise.

This particular clip is an own-brand item from Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium and arrives without an extraneous branding; the packaging is simple, utilitarian and, accordingly, female-friendly. (Unlike the clover clamps I reviewed recently, there’s no porn star displaying the clip in a raunchy pose, or laugh-out-loud back-of-box-copy talking about ‘excitement areas’.)

The clit clamp itself is very simple in design – a 6.5 centimetre (2.56 inch) metal clip that looks very much like an oversized hairpin with two strings of pink plastic beads, each measuring 4 centimetres (1.57 inches) attached to its looped ends. It’s very unintimidating, to be perfectly frank – no springs, screws or sliding parts – and looks like something you’d keep in your jewellery rather than your toy box. Weight-wise, the clit clip is very light, tipping the scales at a mere three grams, so there’s no need to worry that you’re going to be trying to accommodate something the size of a Christmas decoration between your legs.

Unfortunately, the clip doesn’t come with any instructions, so I had to do a bit of hunting on the Internet for adornment pointers. (For those who are interested, the most useful article I found whilst researching how to ‘dress myself’ was this one by D.Vice Magazine.)

Putting it on …

Lizzie
The first time Thomas and I used the clit clip, I insisted on placing it myself as I wasn’t sure how easy it would be to apply and I didn’t want to catch anything unexpectedly. Thomas insisted on watching me, though – one, because he’s pretty visual and, two, because he wanted to see how to do it himself in the future.

I made sure that everything was well lubricated before I attempted to slide the clip on but therein lay a bit of a hurdle. You need to pull the two looped ends of the clip apart in order to slide it over the inner labia and clitoral hood but with slippery fingers, this isn’t very easy to do and it took a few tries before I finally got it in position. (Thomas actually had to lend a hand at one point.) After all the messing about with attachment, my initial thought regarding the ‘in-situ’ sensation was that it was pretty mild. However, after about five minutes things started to get a little more interesting; as the blood supply to my clitoris was interrupted, it became more responsive and when Thomas removed the clip just over ten minutes later it had a lovely heavy feeling – which translated to a very nice orgasm with a little bit of additional stimulation.

After our first run with the clip we got a bit more experimental, with Thomas coating my clitoris in Durex O before and after clamping to increase the sensitivity further, using a vibrator on me while the clamp was in place, and on one very memorable occasion pulling it out of his pocket while we were enjoying a nightcap in a smart bar and telling me to go to the bathroom, put it on, and return to him. (We didn’t stay long after that.)

Two important points worth mentioning …  Firstly, Thomas and I found that we couldn’t have sex with the clip in place as it got in the way of penetration and, while everyone’s vulval landscape is different, we suspect that others will encounter this issue, too. Secondly, the beaded sections of the clip are not particularly easy to clean. Although you can use toy cleaners and antibacterial soap to wash them (and the main body), ensuring that the fabric strings are thoroughly sanitised is hard as they absorb lubricant – both bought and naturally produced.

The verdict?

Lizzie
This is a very mild clamp, so perfect for those who are new to pressure play. Yes, it goes on a sensitive area but the sensations it produces aren’t extreme. Because of the design, it’s not really possible to keep it on during penetrative sex, but the clip is great fun to use as part of foreplay.

In summary …

Things I liked …

• The sensitivity it produced. The clit clip traps the blood in the clitoris, making it more responsive to touch.
• The portability. This is a small toy that you can easily tote about – and you won’t be embarrassed if it falls out of your handbag because it looks very innocuous.

Things I wasn’t so keen on …

• The lack of instructions. Most people will be able to figure out which way around the clit clip goes but some written or illustrated guidance wouldn’t go amiss.
• The fabric strings. It’s very difficult to clean the beaded sections of the clip effectively as they absorb moisture during use. Definitely a one-person toy.
• Can’t really be worn during penetrative sex as the metal arms of the clip rest very close to the entrance of the vagina.
• Can be hard to get in place – lube is absolutely essential but slippery fingers can hinder positioning.

Tickle your fancy? Click here to buy the clitoral clamp/clit clip from Sh! Women’s Erotic Emporium.

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