Comments on: Wicked Wednesday: Losing it, asking for it

By: Charlie

Charlie — Sat, 01 Nov 2014 23:52:39 +0000

This is a really brave piece, Jane: I love reading about people’s earliest experiences of kink and the fact you’ve chosen to write so honestly about the good and bad aspects of it is inspiring. Thanks for sharing x

By: Molly

Molly — Sat, 01 Nov 2014 18:41:50 +0000

OK here goes… many years ago with my first husband during the brief time I was on the pill, we had had sex and then gone out somewhere…. when I went to the toilet I could smell it. Our sex, his cum mingled with my body and I found it SOOOOO hot. I went outside and whispered in his ear and he looked up at with total and utter disgust on his face. I was utterly mortified and ashamed. It took many years to set that aside as I totally thought I was weird and disgusting for like that….. Now I know better, but that moment reminds me of feeling deep shame and all part of many years of ‘dark secrets’ for me that made me convinced there was something wrong with me. I was some kind of pervert… which I am… but now I know it is OK to be a pervert.

Mollyxxx

By: Natasha Knight

Natasha Knight — Thu, 30 Oct 2014 09:21:07 +0000

I imagine those words are something you never forget even after they’ve lost their power over you.

By: The Sin Doll

The Sin Doll — Wed, 29 Oct 2014 22:12:43 +0000

Damn. I had these stupid, silly games that I tried to play in hopes of introducing some type of D/s into teenage relationships. It usually involved in me being a tease. I had no idea what BDSM was. Not the “word” for it. But I’d been letting the boys catch me on the playground for years.

Hair shirt. – Love It.

By: MrsJoJo (@Josephine_KK)

MrsJoJo (@Josephine_KK) — Wed, 29 Oct 2014 18:36:14 +0000

That’s a very intimate thing that you shared with him, very interesting but straight to the point.

Thank you for sharing x

By: Marie Rebelle

Marie Rebelle — Tue, 28 Oct 2014 18:39:03 +0000

To start with the last paragraphs, you indeed had some pretty damn good firsts. It’s wonderful that you discovered your kink at such a young age and with someone who obviously had a feeling for it, instinctively ‘knew’ what to do. I also totally understand why you are still plagued by that one question.

Thanks so much for sharing these intimate details. I always find it very interesting to hear about others ‘sexual history’

Rebel xox

By: Cammies on the Floor

Cammies on the Floor — Tue, 28 Oct 2014 18:35:28 +0000

You’re right: requesting a desire is such a personal vulnerable opening, and if it’s perceived as a rejection or a judgment (even towards the other person) it’s hard to bounce back from that, especially when we’re young and defining ourselves.
Such a great write up. Thank you for exposing some nerves and allowing us to not feel so alone when we do so as well.